I have often wished, when a doctor asked me to describe my pain, that I could snap my fingers and let him feel it for himself. Pain is so subjective that its hard to put into words the ways it feels and since we all describe things differently, the words are not always meaningful to what I am experiencing.
Additionally, I would wager that if a person were to experience the intensity of my pain for just a few moments, it would make their knees go weak. Having pain day in and day out causes me to partially get accustom to it. Its not like having an immediate onset all the time, so I adapt to some of it. But if someone were to feel it immediately, there would be the intensity that would be very hard for them to handle.
This goes also to people who judge me and others with pain who say “You don’t look sick!”, “You don’t look like you are hurting!”. These people should also walk a mile in my shoes to understand what its all about. Never judge what you don’t understand!
To this point, I recently received a daily inspirational note from TUT.com that addresses this very point that I will pass on to you. It says:
If you could actually stand in someone else’s shoes, Elaine, to hear what
they hear, see what they see, and feel what they feel, you would honestly
wonder what planet they live on, and be totally blown away by how different
their “reality” is from yours.
You’d also never, in a million years, be quick to judge again.
Just sayin’
The Universe
Think about it!!
